Thursday, October 2, 2008

Are we in high school or what?

Ok, where do I start. Today I was on TWW and I was talking in one of the buddy groups and One* had mentioned that she has been cigarette free for X days. What I said in a nutshell is congrats and that I know how how it is because I too am trying to quit. Then I went on about how I don't judge woman who smoke while pregnant because I smoked the whole time with DD and until 15-20 weeks with DS. If I was to judge I would be a hypocrite. Then we both get flamed for it. No support or nothing! Me - I am not feeding into the drama and getting angry because I cannot get my blood pressure up so I left and ate some food. Me and One talked for a while off of TWW. Then it's like everyone there just turned their heads like nothing had happened. A few hours ago I got a Privet Message from someone...
Lexy,
How dare you smoke while pregnant/ttc. You are risking the lives of your children. No wonder your two children are screwed up and have medical problems! No, wonder why baby b is "slow". You are KILLING that baby. In fact I hope your triplets are born so early that they do not survive. BITCH.

Well, because of that I am NOT going back to TWW to a place where I thought I could get support. But, in turn will tell me that they hope my babies are going to die. This hit me on a very personal level and hurt a lot. I am not going to a place where I knwow I am not wanted and where someone wishes harm to me and my children and FYI - My childrens medical problems are hereditary, thank you very much!!
*Protecting her name

7 comments:

Ali said...

Hi Lexy! I lurk at your blog all the time. Maybe because I am envious of the triplets or that your crack me up and have a crazy sense of humor like me and my husband.... LOL Anyway, I just wanted to say how shitty that was that someone said that to you. Absolutely horrid. How dare someone wish anything like that on you or your children. I can understand why you would be pissed and not want to come back to TWW. But please do comeback. Don't let one moronic, stupid, idiotic woman make you leave! Good luck and I hope those 3 little monkeys are born kicking screaming and plotting to kick her tush!

mrs_oz said...

Lexy, I am SO sorry that someone said that to you. You need to forward that to Ellie or a moderator of some sort that was so uncalled for and in DOOPS you are very much wanted. *hugs* That was truly horrible what that person said and you are a wonderful mother with beautiful children.

Lauren said...

Ok, first I need to mention one thing, congratulations on being the bigger person. There is no need to talk to people who are so cruel. And second, there is much information that proves that smoking in pregnancy DOESNT DIRECTLY EFFECT THE BABIES.
This is what I found on the March of Dimes website.

"The more a pregnant woman smokes, the greater her risk of having a low-birthweight baby. However, if a woman stops smoking even by the end of her second trimester of pregnancy, she is no more likely to have a low-birthweight baby than a woman who never smoked (6). "

i am so sorry some women are so cruel.

Katrina said...

Lexy, I do not know who sent you that PM nor do i want to know, but what she/he said was horrid and crude. Even if I hated a person so much I would NEVER wish that upon them. I really like you and I hope you come back to atleast chat a little bit... I hope you are doing better... You are a great asset to DOOPS!

Heather said...

Hi, it's BabyMamaDrama from the April board. I am SO sorry to hear that someone would say that to you. When I was in high school I was going through some major medical stuff and this girl (that was really jealous of one of my friendships) sent me a comment on LiveJournal saying that she hoped I'd die soon. So I know the feeling. I hope you do come back to the April board, we'll miss you around there.

Anonymous said...

I am so sorry someone treated you like that! You should definitely report them, because we don`t need people like that in our lives! I was wondering if you were ok because I hadn`t seen a post from you in a few days - that`s why I checked your blog. Hugs, x Eren

Jen (the twin mom) said...

Lexy, I just wanted to let you know that we all have our flaws, I too am trying to quit smoking again, and have heard it all as well. You are a very strong woman for going through all that you have and all you have ahead of you. luv ya girl